School holidays can be an exciting time for both you and your adolescent son. This handout provides key points to help you navigate this period with enjoyment and positive communication while strengthening your relationship. Enjoying school holidays with your adolescent son is all about engagement, communication, and creating meaningful experiences.
Key Points for Enjoying School Holidays
1. Plan Engaging Activities
• Explore Interests: Discuss what activities your son is interested in. Whether it’s sports, arts, or exploring nature, planning activities around his interests can enhance his engagement.
• Family Outings: Consider day trips to local attractions, museums, parks, or even hiking trails. These can create memorable experiences.
2. Encourage Independence
• Personal Projects: Encourage him to pursue a hobby or project he’s passionate about. This fosters independence and allows him to express himself.
• Social Connections: Support your son in arranging outings with friends. This builds social skills and offers a break for both of you.
3. Foster Positive Communication
• Active Listening: Pay attention to what your son shares about his experiences and feelings. This demonstrates respect and reinforces trust.
• Open Dialogues: Create a safe space for conversations by being approachable and non-judgmental. This can lead to more meaningful discussions.
4. Set Boundaries
• Screen Time: Agree on rules regarding screen time to balance technology use with other activities.
• Chores and Responsibilities: Involve him in household responsibilities to instill a sense of contribution and teamwork.
5. Create a Flexible Schedule
• Daily Routine: Set a loose schedule with both structured and unstructured time. This helps in balancing relaxation and activity.
• Family Meetings: Regularly check in with each other about plans and feelings to make necessary adjustments.
Quiz: How Well Do You Know Your Son?
Test your knowledge about your son’s preferences and feelings. The answers can guide you in planning enjoyable activities!
1. What is his favorite indoor activity?
A) Playing video games
B) Reading books
C) Watching movies
D) None of the above
Correct Answer: Any answer is valid; ask for his opinion!
2. What sport does he enjoy playing or watching?
A) Soccer
B) Basketball
C) Tennis
D) I’m not sure
Correct Answer: Any answer is valid; ensure you discuss this with him.
3. How does he prefer to communicate?
A) Sitting down fact-to-face
B) Texting
C) Through shared activities
D) He doesn’t like to communicate much
Correct Answer: Discuss to understand his preference better!
4. What is one thing he would love to do during the holidays?
A) Go to the movies
B) Spend time on a hobby
C) Go camping
D) Stay at home and relax
Correct Answer: Any answer is valid; ask for his input!
Reflection
After taking the quiz, reflect on your answers. These insights can help guide your plans and improve your communication with your son.
Resources for Further Reading or Support
Books:
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey
How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Happy Holidays,
Dr Filia Papadimitriou
Student Counselling Wellbeing Team Leader